Sunday, 31 August 2008

Men�s sexuality or terra incognita

The sexual lives of men full of lies and deception. The truth is that we hot in a patriarchal club. With some natyazhkoy, one could argue that the world ruled by hands. But when it comes to sexual urge, men suffer out on all the articles. This area of human relationships beyond them, they lav not control it. Incredible and amazing statement, is not it? Only at first glance.


Eventually, the full multi-sexual amusement industry is built on unsteady foundations of male sexual fantasies. Popular polls, issues of sex, prove that in bed, men receive much more than preference. Men typically hold more sexual satisfaction than women. So what’s the problem of male sexuality to explain?


In a nutshell, this male gender remains terra incognita, altogether unexplored phenomenon, which the court based on numerous scientific and obyvatelskih assumptions and perceptions (often erroneous). The job is that if the men themselves do not start to ask yourself simple (and difficult) questions about his own gender, this position will ne'er change for the better.


So the to the highest degree basic myths about male sexuality:


Men’s gender is the norm


Men’s sexuality for many serves as a measure of sex and a means of determining it. The problem is that everyone is confident that knows what exactly is the measuring rod of sex and cypher utruzhdaet to find themselves closer look. We should note that this notion too by recent places, and places - virgin pure. The definition of male gender, we should not bank on the appearance, growth and build, and internal criteria.


Because male sexuality is considered the norm, it will never be questioned. That is the job, because men’s gender - the same complex phenomenon, like women’s sexuality, and it stiff to be overcome.


Symptoms of male gender more recognized in society


In Western culture manifestations of male gender is much more welcome than distaff sexuality. From an former age inspire us to distinguish betwixt a man and a woman and repeat apprehend oskominu priskazku “boys have boys”, which gives young people the chance to freely explore their own sex secret, just a well-known way. This “collusion” partially removes obstacles to the development of male sexuality.


However, the phenomenon coupled and certain problems, because obstacles stimulate growth and development. We live in a smart set where the negative posture towards sex and all forms of sexual, so the absence seizure of barriers does not mean freedom and raskovannost, but only when choose the path of least resistance. As a result, manpower are non able to make informed sexual choices, they sustain to take that imposes society, and consider it the best choice.


Men’s sex is obvious, visible at first ken, means a priori


So allege when want to say that male sexuality is its fallose. This may be peerless of the most widespread and lasting misconceptions around male sexuality, moreover, the most harmful and serious. The truth is that fallos personifies male gender - no one does not indicate with that! Men’s private parts are outside, so almost men hear their own body (masturbiruyut are experiencing erection and semyaizverzhenie) is already at an early age without any aid or intervention, so that sexual arousal gives men easily.


Because workforce easily brought, considered that there is nothing in particular, and therefore absolutely necessary to know more about the phenomenon. As we cognize, Freud once said that in male sexuality is nothing extraordinary, while the nature of female sexuality has remained for him unsolvable whodunit. But there Freud was wrong. Men’s sexuality seems to us a simple, because we traktuem it as the Laity.


Men’s gender is heterosexual person in nature


Another classic myth of male sexuality, “proven” to the fact that workforce choose women - as we have already identified, subject to impose on society option. Unfortunately, modern sexology naproch ignore the great theory of Socrates and conceive that for women epicene experience - something “natural”, patch for work force - quite the contrary, as “male heterosexuals in nature”.


Of course, it is impossible to disregard the existence of homosexuals, but they are “different from other” and make up only 2 - 10% of the male population. So when we talk about the culture of male sexuality, we about always miserly heterosexual male sexuality, which in itself is evenhandedly narrow notion (here means a sexual act with vaginal insight, which precedes the minimum prelude and oral sex).


The problem is that this is non true. In fact, manpower (and pioneers experimenter by nature) ar seeking to try everything in sex, and often it is “all” simply impossible to go through with a woman. If you look closely on the sides, without work can be seen as a growth number of men seeking to enrich their sexual experience at the expense of communication with representatives of their gender, number of latent homosexual couples and homosexuals, are not yet cognisant of their choice, a variety of male gender becomes plain. The diversity of forms of male sexual demeanour does not fit into the common framework that leads us to the legitimate need to expand this framework.




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